If only she had tried a bit more, she could have fairly easily passed so many of her courses, so easily caught the train on time, washed the odd dish, cleaned and kept clean her room. But instead she corners herself into the shadows of self doubt and impossibility. All was and still is possible, but it takes a willful act and a persistent practice of such an act.
As a father, best for me to proceed by example... make my own transition lifestyle, and succeed. It may not work to help her, but at least I will have felt I tried, and helped myself in the process.